Do you forgive easily? How about hold a grudge?

Have you had others hold grudges against you?

I enjoy my work. One of the main reasons is that I like the journey inward. It is not always comfortable, actually, it rarely is! However, it is through this journey that I can see myself clearly, release and learn from past experiences, and give my Self permission to expand. 

One thing that makes me cringe is hearing the words “they will never change or can never change. How do you know? 

Have you ever experienced being treated like your younger self, even though the behaviors or choices are 10, 20, 30 years in the past? How do you feel when you are kept in an old box?

So often we don’t realize we do it, or the ones doing it are unaware of their own behavior. This is not just family (although very common) but friends and coworkers, etc. 

Here is the thing, when we do this, we are actually doing it to ourselves. When we say someone else can’t or won’t change, we are putting the limits on our own expansion and growth. Why? Because we are living in the past. We cannot be completely present and hold on to old hurts or experiences. It is not that we forget, but that we move on with understanding that we are all going through life at our growth rate. We may not like it, but it is important that we love each person where they are in present time. It is not letting them off the proverbial hook but releasing the negativity out of ourselves. 

In the book, Biology of Belief, science showed that it is our perception of our environment that would affect our wellbeing. If we believe that people are bad, can never change, are going to harm us, our physical, mental and emotional health will be at dis-ease. However, if we can see that people are trying their best with all that they have in the moment, we can stay at ease.

This doesn’t mean we don’t have boundaries or let people harm us. It is the opposite. We don’t let people harm us because by doing so we are allowing them to harm themselves.

Forgiveness is not forgetting or letting people off the hook, it is moving ourselves away from hatred and back toward love.

Are you ready to let go?

Brightest of blessings,

Dawn xo

Conscious Empowerment Coach

Speaker, Teacher, Beacon of Light

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